Do you ever feel misunderstood? Do you ever feel like you don’t understand your co-worker?
Here is an example of a typical co-worker conversation that starts simple, but ends in hurt feelings.
Mandy: Good morning Melissa. How was your weekend? Melissa: Fine. Did you finish the numbers for the KOTO report? I need them today.
Mandy: My weekend was great. We went to the pumpkin patch with the kids and they loved the hay ride… Melissa: (interrupting bluntly) When will you get the numbers to me? I need to finish the analysis on the inventory.
Mandy: (feeling hurt) I can work on it this morning and get it to you by 10am.
Melissa: No later than 10am.
Mandy: (now feeling angry) Fine, 10am.
How often have you had a version of this conversation? One person is trying to be social and share the details of her fun weekend, and the other is focused on analyzing a report. One person is feeling hurt because the other one “didn’t care,” and the other person is feeling “annoyed” because she just wants the numbers for the KOTO report to analyze.